What is self-deprivation?

Self-deprivation, in general terms, is the act of depriving yourself for some time. It can range from denying yourself food ingredients to depriving your body of what it needs to gain weight (i.e., fattening) or depriving yourself of sleep to help you gain energy. If done over an extended period, self-deprivation can even cause severe damage to your health. But do you know if self-deprivation is good for you?

What are the benefits?

The majority opinion on friendly people meet blog is that there are some positive effects of this phenomenon! For example:

– You will be more likely to achieve your goals because you have restricted all possible routes that may lead away from it. This makes your goal easier to attain.

– The more you deprive yourself of certain foods, ingredients, etc…The less likely you are to (in the future) be tempted by them. So if you deprive yourself of junk food for a considerable amount of time, the chances are that in the future, when presented with the option, you will be less likely to indulge in it!

– Being deprived can cause some people to produce endorphins which give them (temporary) feelings of happiness and euphoria. Who wouldn’t want that?

– You may become more disciplined; this makes sense. If there is something that you must endure for some time, stopping would seem like nothing but an inconvenience after having gone through so much pain that has already been inflicted.

– You may be able to push yourself further than you thought possible if you take this “endured pain” mindset.

– If you are giving up something in your life for an extended period, it can make the feeling when you attain/resume what you gave up all that much better!

And last but not least.

– Self-deprivation is a great tool when learning about oneself because it forces introspection. It forces one to ask themselves why they would go through so much to fulfill their desire. What does this preference mean? Why do I want it so wrong? Is there another way that I could go about getting it without depriving myself? The questions that self-deprivation asks are insightful and reflective.

What are the drawbacks?

– Self-deprivation can become addicting! If you have deprived yourself of something for a considerable amount of time, the chances are that you will likely not be able to go back to eating/doing it as if nothing happened.

This makes sense because after depriving yourself of the same thing for such a significant amount of time, it would be almost impossible to go right back to doing/eating whatever it is you denied yourself from doing/eating without feeling like something was missing!

– Some people cannot live with themselves if they know that they deprived themselves of eating food (in general) and put their health at risk.

Other people take this “endured pain” mindset too far and deprive themselves to the point of causing irreparable damage.

– The more someone deprives themselves, the less likely they want to go back.

Ways You Unwittingly Deprive Yourself Of Love And Fulfillment

You might be thinking that you are only interested in happiness and finding love, not depriving yourself of anything. As it turns out, your subconscious decisions may be keeping you single and unhappy with how things are currently going. Below are common ways people unknowingly keep themselves deprived of love, along with suggestions on how to avoid them!

1) Comparing Yourself to Others

While looking at others’ lives can give us ideas for how we would like ours to look down the road, relentless comparison with our peers is an excellent way to stay unhappy. Recently I talked with a client who had trouble enjoying what she was doing in life because she kept comparing herself to her friend. While it might feel great at the moment to compare yourself to someone more successful than you, this is not a sustainable way of thinking. When you compare your insides to other people’s outsides*, it is easy for constant comparisons to make you feel that your life isn’t as great or fulfilling as theirs — leading you into deprivation from love and joy.

2) You are Choosing to Waste Your Time

When you decide how to spend your time, it is easy to pick up time-wasters that deprive you of love. Perhaps it’s wasting hours on social media or playing video games instead of pursuing a fulfilling career. It might also be watching too much TV when you could be reading or learning something new and exciting. Whatever it may be, these time wasters can add up and deprive us of our love and happiness in the long run.

3) You Care Too Much About What Other People Think

When people care too much about what others think of them, they deprive themselves of love. It’s essential to keep in mind that other people can control their own opinions, and if you want to be happy, it is essential not to let their opinion get in the way. Try this instead if you catch yourself worrying too much about what your boss thinks of your work or how your date feels about the silly thing you said.

4) You Aren’t Grateful for What You Have Now

When people focus on what they don’t have, they deprive themselves of love instead of being grateful for what they have. Because there is always something people can find to be unhappy about, it’s essential not to fall into this trap. While you may have a lot of things to be thankful for now, you need to realize that many others don’t have these advantages and appreciate what you have.

5) You Don’t Believe You Can Get What You Want

When people don’t believe they can get what they want, they deprive themselves of love. It’s hard enough getting what we want in life with the right effort and attitude, but sometimes we make it even harder on ourselves by having a poor attitude. Try to change your self-talk when you think things like “It’s too hard” or “I never get what I want,” try to change your self-talk. Often we don’t realize how negative we can be to ourselves — so learn to think more positively, and you will find that good things come more easily!

6) You Don’t Give Your Opinion Enough

When people keep their opinions to themselves instead of expressing them, they deprive themselves of love. It’s important to express your opinion, especially if it is different from the majority. If you don’t voice your differences of opinion, people may not know where you stand on specific issues and will perceive you as less confident than they otherwise would. However, this doesn’t mean that you should always speak up — be reasonable about how strongly you feel about something and whether or not voicing your opinion can cause more problems than it solves.

7) You Don’t Make Your Own Decisions

When people don’t make their own decisions, they deprive themselves of love. Think about it — if you always let other people make your decisions for you, how will they know what’s best for you? You’ll never get to act in your interests or do things that others may not approve of. Instead of letting yourself be pushed around by everyone else’s opinions in the world, learn to trust your gut and take control of your own life!

8) You’re Afraid of Being

When people fear being alone, they are depriving themselves of love. No one wants to be in a bad relationship, but many people stay in them because they are afraid of being alone. Even worse is settling for someone who isn’t right for you because you’re afraid nobody “better” will come along. However, how can anyone get hurt if you end up with the wrong person? Remember that it’s better to be alone than in a relationship that makes you miserable — plus, there may even be someone out there who is perfect for you!

9) You Go With The Flow

When people go with the flow, they are depriving themselves of love. Often, when someone else is planning an event or outing, people who take the initiative won’t just tag along without offering any ideas of their own. If you want to have a voice in your relationships and get others to listen to you, you need to speak up more often! Even if some ideas aren’t perfect, you’ll gain experience voicing your opinion while also making it known that this is something important to you.

10) You Don’t Work On Yourself

When people don’t work on themselves, they deprive themselves of love. In many cases, people hold onto bad habits that ruin their relationships and self-esteem until someone else points them out. Even worse is becoming complacent with your faults because nobody has called you out on those faults before. If this sounds familiar, then now is the time to make a change and become a new person! However, you want to make sure it’s for yourself and not for anyone else — turn your flaws into strengths instead of covering up who you indeed are.

11) You’re Too Critical

When people are too critical of others, they deprive themselves of love. Often, people who criticize others don’t realize that it hurts their relationships and makes them a more negative person overall. Before you say anything about someone else, think about whether or not the comment would be helpful for them — if not, and then try to keep your opinions to yourself. However, this doesn’t mean you should only speak all the time positively either! Try saying things like “I disagree” or offering friendly advice instead of being judgmental.

12) You’re Afraid Of Being Hurt

When people are afraid of being hurt, they deprive themselves of love. At first, it may seem like protecting yourself is the right thing to do, but if your walls are too high, nobody will be able to get very close to you. If you’re tired of being lonely and living in fear, then start letting people into your life by removing obstacles that keep them away. You don’t have to go all out at once either — just taking down one barrier every day could make a massive difference over time!

13) You’re Too Nice

When people are too friendly, they are depriving themselves of love.  While it’s essential to be friendly and helpful, you also need to set boundaries so that people don’t cross your limits. By trying too hard to please everyone, you’ll only overexert yourself — this is an added stressor that can cause a lot of tension with people who care about you. If they notice your efforts, they will want you around more often! Another benefit of being friendly but not lovely is that they may think of you as a friend instead of a friendly acquaintance.

14) You Don’t Make Your Needs A Priority

When people don’t make their needs a priority, they are depriving themselves of love. It’s essential to pay attention to what you need and want because you can only get the most out of life. Suppose your energy is constantly drained from working, taking care of kids, or studying for school. In that case, you won’t have anything left over for yourself — this leads to resenting everyone else and feeling unhappy with your life. So take a step back and think about what will make you happy before committing to anything new!

15) You Don’t Spend Time Alone

When people don’t spend time alone, they deprive themselves of love. Even if you have a lot of friends and enjoy spending time with others, you should also find time to be alone — this is when your mind can process everything that has been happening around you and figure out what to do next. Without the proper downtime, it’s difficult for people to recharge their batteries and improve themselves long-term! Plus, when you’re alone then, nobody gets hurt when they inevitably hurt or upset you by mistake — so take some time for yourself today 🙂

16) You Constantly Compare Yourself To Others.

When people constantly compare themselves to others, they deprive themselves of love. This prevents someone from getting their own needs met, but it also makes them feel inadequate because they’ll constantly be second-guessing themselves. Instead of wasting your time and energy in an endless loop, start trying to improve yourself in ways that make you happy. If you like the way you dress, then keep doing it! If not, then figure out a new look and go for it

17) You Make Excuses To Justify Your Actions

When people make excuses to justify their actions, they deprive themselves of love. It’s perfectly understandable to want things to be perfect before taking action, but this can also be a way of avoiding responsibility. If you make excuses to justify yourself, you’ll never be able to improve your life and accomplish your goals. So instead of making excuses, focus on the positive and do what needs to be done right now! This way, you can prevent consuming even more time and energy down the line 🙂

In conclusion,

We should be aware of self-deprivation’s fattening and health-damaging effects. Don’t let them get in the way of your weight gain goals!

Remember, the only way to achieve TRUE and LASTING results is through a healthy diet and regular exercise.